Toys For Lesbians

Many lesbians feel like all the sex toys out there are made for straight couples and that all the anal toys are made with gay male couples in mind, but the truth is that there is a growing market of lesbian sex toys available on the market and that plenty of other sex toys can be used and enjoyed by lesbians as well.

Anal toys for lesbians aren’t usually specifically for lesbians, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find one you and your girlfriend will like. Anal toys come in a variety of styles, but just as importantly, they come in a variety of materials and colors so you can find the one that suits you best.

Anal toys like butt plugs can be a simple unobtrusive way to add to your usual love making. Once the butt plug is inserted you are free to engage in tribadism, vaginal or clitoral stimulation, or whatever else you can think up. The key to making your lesbian anal toys as fun to use as possible is the addition of ample amounts of lubrication. Because the anus does not self lubricate like the vagina will you will probably have to apply lube several times in the course of your play.

Lots of (straight) people assume that just because I’m a lesbian I don’t like being penetrated. But, just like there are no known limits to straight sex, gay sex and lesbian sex toys are just as varied. Sure, I’ve come across a few lesbians in my day that don’t like penetration but plenty of us girls love it!
My favorite lesbian sex toy is my dildo that has the option of adding a harness to make it a lesbian strap on. I like the flexibility it offers. My girlfriend and I can use a lesbian dildo on each other at the same time and then I can put on the harness.

With the lesbian strap on I can fuck my girlfriend and still keep my hands free for ‘other’ activities. I definitely recommend buying a lesbian dildo and harness set that come packaged together. Packaged lesbian strap on sets just seem to have a more secure fit to me, so you have better control over the dildo. Buying the lesbian dildo and the strap on set takes some of the guess work out of shopping; there’s no worrying that your dildo isn’t going to fit your lesbian strap on.

Since the rise of HIV in the 1980’s, sexually transmitted diseases have changed the global society. Where sex was thought of as “free and happy” in the 1960’s and 70’s and throughout the sexual revolution, the 80’s ushered in a new era of sex as “free and happy and unsafe”. Middle-class Caucasian women in their 30’s are the fastest growing group battling STD’s. People, let’s not allow the spread of life-altering and life-ending diseases to ruin sex for everyone. Let’s talk about sexual safety.

Most of us underwent excessively embarrassing Sexual Education in high school—you remember that class wherein they separated the girls from the boys and everybody had to practice putting condoms on bananas. Amidst the giggles and eye rolling, you hopefully learned an important lesson: have all the sex you want, just be safe and healthy about it. I know it makes you uncomfortable to think about it, but Mrs. Johnson was right, although we can all agree that her campy sweaters were all wrong. Thanks to the caring, seriously underpaid teachers, most of us are now pretty comfortable using condoms, and live by the motto “Get it on, or there’ll be no getting off”.

But condoms don’t protect you when you’re playing nice and going down on your hot girl date. It is important to protect your sensitive oral cavity from sexually transmitted diseases like HIV, herpes, or warts (seriously, you do NOT want warts or herpes all over your mouth; not only is it uncomfortable, but you won’t be getting any action for a long while). Enter the Latex Dental Dam. Simply cover the pussy with this thin sheet of flavored latex, and you can give or receive all night long.

Most often found in the lesbian sex toy section, dental dams work like this: remove the sheet of latex from the packaging. Place over anus or vagina, being careful to cover the entire area. It is important to be careful that only one side of the latex sheet comes in contact with the anus or vagina—if you remove the dam for other play, it is best to simply trash it and get out a new one when you need it.

It is important to note that latex dental dams offer more than just sexual safety and prevent the spread of disease. For those who really don’t like the taste of pussy, or have reservations about flossing with hair from down-there, dental dams come in a variety of flavors like strawberry and grape. These flavored safety nets will help both persons enjoy cunnilingus to the fullest climax.

By now you’ve probably heard all about rabbit-style vibrators—those fuckers are so great, they merit their own category. Well, the bunny love just got better with a lesbian strap on that features a vibrating rabbit for clit stimulation!

Doc Johnson has brought a gift to the world with the iVibe Rabbit Harness Strap-On. It’s your classic rabbit vibrator, complete with rotating head and bead-filled shaft for awesome G-spot stimulation, and a vibrating rabbit clit stimulator. But this rabbit attaches to a soft rubber harness for ultimate fucking pleasure. The only problem is that she’s going to love it so much; you’ll have a hard time getting your turn! Straight women will be begging their men to try it (which brings up an entire other dual-penetration fantasy).

Of course, most dildos with a flared base can be used with strap-on harnesses. Harnesses come in two variations—thong style (like the Bare As You Dare Harness), or jock strap style. A lot of people prefer thong style harnesses as they often offer better stability.

If you and your lesbian partner both enjoy penetration, consider using a dual-dildo lesbian strap-on kit like the Vibrating Dual Penetrix Strap-On. With this fucker, you can be a giver and a very happy receiver.

Well, the first thing to do when fisting a girl is talk about it, and make sure that she likes penetration and is open to trying fisting. The human fist is considerably larger than most dildos, so a partner who is new to fisting may be nervous, and may experience discomfort. If it hurts and she wants you to stop, it is important that you stop immediately. Fisting may be fun, but this is your partner—you don’t want to lose her trust and hurt her physically and emotionally.

So, you’ve both decided that fisting is the thing to try. While the vaginal walls are capable of opening wide enough to accommodate a fist, they aren’t likely to be ready participants. You will need to start by heightening her arousal and really get her juices flowing. Turn your girl on by whatever you know works; take out the trash, do the dishes, lick her eager clit. You get the idea.

Once she’s raring and ready to go, lube up your entire fist thoroughly. Just as men need condoms to protect against STD’s, a latex glove will help protect you and your partner during fisting. Start to enter her with just a few fingers at first, playing with her the whole time to keep her relaxed and happy. The vaginal opening is small, so you need to play with it to relax those muscles and put your fingers together with your thumb, almost like you’re making an alligator hand puppet. Ease it in slowly. A bit of clit licking while you’re down there will probably be appreciated.

Keeping your knuckles turned toward her rear while you gently pump up and down or rotate your fist around will offer pleasant stimulation. Communications is key here—if she’s uncomfortable, get out of there as carefully and quickly as possible. As long as you’re both comfortable and having fun, try different techniques to get her going. Before long, your lesbian lover might be calling your fist her favorite lesbian sex toy!

Many lesbians enjoy tribadism—the act of rubbing your vulva (or crotch in general) against part of your partner’s body. Hips, legs, arms, pubic and tailbones are all good contact locations for tribadism. Done with clothing on, you don’t even have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases!

For lesbians who don’t like penetration, but do enjoy tribadism, consider using a bullet vibrator. A bullet vibrator is small enough to maneuver outside the body. Turn it on and put it in contact with your clit for great stimulation. For use during tribadism, ask your partner to secret the bullet vibe inside her clothes, like in her hip pocket. If you are doing crotch to crotch tribadism, you can both enjoy the bullet by having one partner put it between her underwear and pants.

If you are using a bullet for tribadism, a wireless bullet is probably best—who needs wires getting in the way! Something along the lines of the Waterproof 7 Function Remote Egg will allow the vibrating bullet to be secreted in a pocket or other area of clothing, while either partner controls the vibration speed and intensity with the wireless remote control.

Tickling panties, like the Remote 3-Speed Sapphire Thong, make great lesbian sex toys, and offer vibrating clit stimulation that both partners can enjoy during crotch to crotch tribadism. If you don’t like the look of panties with a built-in vibe, consider the Vibrating Panty Pal Purple Star. It magnetically attaches to any panties, and for clit to clit tribadism, it will add a new level of stimulation and fun.

Of course, the first rule of enjoying your first lesbian encounter is pretty much the same as any sexual encounter: communication is key. Be open to listening to your partner and relaying to her what feels good to you. Now that your head is on squarely, let’s figure out just how to begin.

Books and videos can be screened before the big night to educate yourself on what to expect, and what might be expected of you. The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman has long been touted one of the best educational and supportive tomes on the subject of lesbian sex. For heterosexual women considering taking a dip in the ladies’ room, Women Loving Women by Jamye Waxman not only addresses the lesbian sex encounter, but also discusses the effects of such on a pre-existing heterosexual relationship.

Videos also offer a lot in the way of sex education. For the heterosexual woman considering a lesbian tryst, Nina Hartley’s Guide for the Bi-Curious Woman will explain what to expect in a lesbian sex encounter, complete with visual aides for your learning pleasure. The Women Loving Women DVD promises to educate on the best techniques for pleasuring a woman, regardless of the partner’s gender.

So, you’ve educated yourself and now you’re ready to try out your new skills. If you are sheepish about your first lesbian encounter, or your first sexual encounter with a new partner, consider some lesbian sex toy games. Games offer an intriguing way to ease into the act all the while having fun and getting the passion heated up. Exxxtasy Erotic Game for Women Only offers great ways to turn foreplay into a whole evening’s fun. If you get stuck during the act and can’t figure out what positions to try, Lesbian Sex Cards offer suggestions on sexual positions and fun acts to perform with your partner. Like sexual encounter, lesbian sex is all about partnering and pleasuring.

Usually when people think of anal sex they think of gay men. People need to expand their horizons a little. Anal sex is for everyone, straights and lesbians included! My girlfriend and I have been using anal sex toys for a few years now. We both agree that we’ve had the strongest longest orgasms of our life using anal sex toys on each other.

I hate giant anal sex toys (though Beth loves them. The more extreme the better, naughty girl), but I have definitely found that anal beads make me cum every time. I also keep one smaller dildo just for anal play. Beth and I have found one that comes with a detachable harness, which means she can wear it as a strap on and use it on me, or I can pull it apart and use it on myself. 

Anal sex feels good. You wouldn’t believe how good unless you’ve tried it yourself. And that goes double for lesbian anal sex. My girlfriend has the amazing ability to hit my G spot (indirectly of course, but it still feels good) with anal sex toys. Just don’t forget the lube!