Toys For Lesbians

I hate fingering myself; it is like the one way to guarantee I don’t have an orgasm. On top of that most of the girlfriends I’ve had don’t like being penetrated by fingers, period, whether they are doing it themselves or I am. My girlfriend and I both swear by the LELO clit massager, both for solo play and for our time together. It fits perfectly in the palm of your hand, sort of like an ergonomically designed computer mouse, and is meant strictly for the outside of your pussy- no penetration at all.

But I think the best part about it is that, out of all the lesbian sex toys I own, it is the only one that really doesn’t look like a sex toy. So I feel very comfortable carrying it around in my purse or putting it my desk drawer at work. Nothing improves a long workday better than taking a quick break and having an orgasm or two . . . (or three) before heading back to work.

For many women, the orgasm is an elusive creature, rarely, if ever, experienced. While masturbation with dildos and vibrators can help, for many women penetration is not the key. If your sex partner is uncomfortable watching you with a dildo or vibrator, it can make reaching orgasm even more difficult.

Vibrating clitoral stimulation is the key many women seek to reaching orgasm and experiencing fulfilling sex lives. The Tuyo Vibromasseur offers luxury and pleasure, in an artistic form. It is a sphere, designed to be attractive and non-threatening, making it a great clitoral stimulator for couples who are new to sex toy play. An added bonus of the Tuyo Vibromasseur is that its shape allows it to double as a massager for any body part, on anybody. Relaxation plays a big role in reaching orgasm, and you can start this artistic sphere at your shoulders and work its way down.

I have been meaning to say a little bit about my lover Cathy. It’s kind of a weird situation. We have been lovers since college so we have a long history, but since then we haven’t spent a ton of time together. Our lesbian love connection spans many years, but for reasons of distance and time, does not include frequent physical contact. We are hoping to rectify that, so we’ve set out to do some real exploration together.

We had a conversation over some wine the other night, and Cathy told me some of the things I may not have known that turned her on. She is really into spanking. She likes to give and receive and even lent me a video about an artist who does sexy drawings of women getting spanked. She also gets especially hot for gay male porn-which I knew-bit I didn’t know that she likes interracial scenes the best.

I told her a few of my favorite things – less about fetish and more just about how I like my body caressed and licked. We took a long, sweet time reacquainting in bed. A few of my good spanking swats landed on her beautiful ass. She seemed to love it, and we are looking forward to revisiting that when we’ve got all night.

I was just invited to a Bachelorette party for a lesbian co-worker that has a lesbian sex toy theme. The brides requested that if we wanted to bring a gift we stick to the theme and make sure it was a lesbian sex toy. I don’t even know what makes a lesbian sex toy different from a regular sex toy- help!

I’m straight but am throwing a Bachelorette party for my lesbian best friend. I want to do something a little racy, I know she is totally into lesbian sex toys and wants a very naughty night out, but I’m a bit stumped. We live in a very conservative area and I’m worried there could be some trouble if we went to a strip club featuring women. Any ideas?

I don’t think that’s weird at all. I hate fingering myself; it is like the one way to guarantee I don’t have an orgasm. On top of that most of the girlfriends I’ve had don’t like being penetrated by fingers, period, whether they are doing it themselves or I am. My girlfriend and I both swear by the LELO clit massager, both for solo play and for our time together. It fits perfectly in the palm of your hand, sort of like an ergonomically designed computer mouse, and is meant strictly for the outside of your pussy- no penetration at all.

But I think the best part about it is that, out of all the lesbian sex toys I own, it is the only one that really doesn’t look like a sex toy. So I feel very comfortable carrying it around in my purse or putting it my desk drawer at work. Nothing improves a long workday better than taking a quick break and having an orgasm or two . . . (or three) before heading back to work.

I understand what you’re going through. It might surprise some of you to hear this but even we lesbians worry about staying tight. And considering that we seem to use more toys on each other (we love our lesbian sex toys, for sure!) I can assure you that as long as you are using plenty of lube you shouldn’t notice too much stretching. My girlfriend loves sex toys, the bigger the better, and she is probably tighter than I am.

If you are really worried though there are plenty of petite sized toys you can try. We both love anal toys and anal beads are incredible sex toys that can be small and still have a HUGE impact. Anal beads start off small and get progressively bigger, so you only have to go as far as you feel comfortable; it’s more about the tantalizing pulsating feeling they create then the size that gets you off. You could also try clitoral stimulators like clit suckers or vibrating panties, both are awesome sex toys that require no penetration whatsoever.

For many lesbian couples, the idea of spending a vacation in an environment where they may be persecuted for their relationship preferences doesn’t seem like a vacation at all. If you and your lady are ready to get away for a relaxing vacation, consider traveling with a company that has your needs and comfort in mind.

Many travel companies offer cruises especially for gay and lesbian couples. These are often different from cruises designed for lesbian singles. On a lesbian couples cruise, you can relax and be yourself, knowing that nobody is going to be offended by your choice of date. The easiest way to find a lesbian couples cruise is to work with a trusted travel agent. Many travel agents will have information regarding the cruises available and what options they include, so consider your travel agent your best friend when choosing the perfect trip for you and your loved one.

Most major cruise companies do not offer cruises designed for any specific group unless booked through an organization. Many gay/lesbian groups, like mygayweb.com partner with cruise lines like Carnival to charter gay and lesbian-only excursions. There are a few companies, like Zenith Travel, that specialize in gay and lesbian trips.

If you can’t find a lesbian cruise that fits your time frame, location, or budget, keep in mind that many major cruise lines do not discriminate. Carnival Cruises offers gay and lesbian “meet and greets” on every cruise, and many of their ships offer gay/lesbian clubs. The idea is that you should feel comfortable taking any cruise you want, but selecting a cruise for the people on it is just as important as choosing where to go.

In case you were wondering about the adventures of my anus (and you know you were, LOL), I have to tell you that I am reaching new heights! I knew that guys were supposed to like anal play, and I am so glad I am exploring it more and more. Now I can’t get enough.

I just bought this thing called the “Back Door Rotator” and it is totally awesome. It’s like the king of anal sex toys – it has six speeds, rotating beads, and it’s pretty huge for my little butt. I used to put something inside me once in a while and I once had a girlfriend who liked to finger me. I started with a couple smaller butt plugs about 4 months ago and the sensations just kept getting deeper. Sometimes it’s a confidence thing, I think, to allow yourself to get to the next level of pleasure.

I’m often a happy solo artist when it comes to sex, and some of my absolute, most extreme earth-shattering jackoff sessions have been with my new anal toy deep up inside me. Where will I go next from here? I can’t wait to find out. Stay tuned…

Sex Toys Forum

ChickyChix: ‘Fess up ladies. Who here has a vibrating cock ring in your bag of lesbian sex toys and how do you use them?

Nicole: Great question! My gf and I have a few. We love to slip them onto our lesbian dildo. It really mixes it up and makes it a more versatile toy. If you start getting bored all you have to do is add a different cock ring and it’s like having a brand new toy. They’re super affordable so it’s easy to get a collection of a bunch of different ones.

MysticAngel: I slip one on over my fingers when I finger my girl. She loves getting the clit stimulation while I do other things.

Daisychain: Great suggestions. As a lesbian I never even considered trying a vibrating cock ring as a lesbian sex toy. When you put them on dildos do they go over or under condoms?

ChickyChix: I always pull the condom on over. You use it to make clean up of the dildo easier, so why not the vibrator too?