Toys For Lesbians

Whether you call it tribadism, scissoring, tribbing, bumping or any one of the dozens of different slang terms out there, there is a lot to say for it! Tribadism is when you and your partner rub your vulvas against each other in a form of mutual masturbation. Often times you rub vulva to vulva, but the practice can include any body parts, and any positions needed to reach those body parts, which get you off.

Tribadism is especially popular with lesbians who don’t like being penetrated. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be one more technique used by you and your partner even if you both like penetration and use something like a lesbian strap on during your love making.

The other common misconception about tribadism is that it cannot be done in use with lesbian sex toys. Many lesbians enjoy using anal toys like butt plugs at the same time they engage in tribadism because a putt plug does not need to be manipulated to get pleasure out of it. Once you insert the butt plug anal toy you are free to do whatever else you like. The anal toys can indirectly stimulate your g spot while you get clitoral stimulation from the tribadism.

Well, the first thing to do when fisting a girl is talk about it, and make sure that she likes penetration and is open to trying fisting. The human fist is considerably larger than most dildos, so a partner who is new to fisting may be nervous, and may experience discomfort. If it hurts and she wants you to stop, it is important that you stop immediately. Fisting may be fun, but this is your partner—you don’t want to lose her trust and hurt her physically and emotionally.

So, you’ve both decided that fisting is the thing to try. While the vaginal walls are capable of opening wide enough to accommodate a fist, they aren’t likely to be ready participants. You will need to start by heightening her arousal and really get her juices flowing. Turn your girl on by whatever you know works; take out the trash, do the dishes, lick her eager clit. You get the idea.

Once she’s raring and ready to go, lube up your entire fist thoroughly. Just as men need condoms to protect against STD’s, a latex glove will help protect you and your partner during fisting. Start to enter her with just a few fingers at first, playing with her the whole time to keep her relaxed and happy. The vaginal opening is small, so you need to play with it to relax those muscles and put your fingers together with your thumb, almost like you’re making an alligator hand puppet. Ease it in slowly. A bit of clit licking while you’re down there will probably be appreciated.

Keeping your knuckles turned toward her rear while you gently pump up and down or rotate your fist around will offer pleasant stimulation. Communications is key here—if she’s uncomfortable, get out of there as carefully and quickly as possible. As long as you’re both comfortable and having fun, try different techniques to get her going. Before long, your lesbian lover might be calling your fist her favorite lesbian sex toy!

Many lesbians enjoy tribadism—the act of rubbing your vulva (or crotch in general) against part of your partner’s body. Hips, legs, arms, pubic and tailbones are all good contact locations for tribadism. Done with clothing on, you don’t even have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases!

For lesbians who don’t like penetration, but do enjoy tribadism, consider using a bullet vibrator. A bullet vibrator is small enough to maneuver outside the body. Turn it on and put it in contact with your clit for great stimulation. For use during tribadism, ask your partner to secret the bullet vibe inside her clothes, like in her hip pocket. If you are doing crotch to crotch tribadism, you can both enjoy the bullet by having one partner put it between her underwear and pants.

If you are using a bullet for tribadism, a wireless bullet is probably best—who needs wires getting in the way! Something along the lines of the Waterproof 7 Function Remote Egg will allow the vibrating bullet to be secreted in a pocket or other area of clothing, while either partner controls the vibration speed and intensity with the wireless remote control.

Tickling panties, like the Remote 3-Speed Sapphire Thong, make great lesbian sex toys, and offer vibrating clit stimulation that both partners can enjoy during crotch to crotch tribadism. If you don’t like the look of panties with a built-in vibe, consider the Vibrating Panty Pal Purple Star. It magnetically attaches to any panties, and for clit to clit tribadism, it will add a new level of stimulation and fun.

Of course, the first rule of enjoying your first lesbian encounter is pretty much the same as any sexual encounter: communication is key. Be open to listening to your partner and relaying to her what feels good to you. Now that your head is on squarely, let’s figure out just how to begin.

Books and videos can be screened before the big night to educate yourself on what to expect, and what might be expected of you. The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman has long been touted one of the best educational and supportive tomes on the subject of lesbian sex. For heterosexual women considering taking a dip in the ladies’ room, Women Loving Women by Jamye Waxman not only addresses the lesbian sex encounter, but also discusses the effects of such on a pre-existing heterosexual relationship.

Videos also offer a lot in the way of sex education. For the heterosexual woman considering a lesbian tryst, Nina Hartley’s Guide for the Bi-Curious Woman will explain what to expect in a lesbian sex encounter, complete with visual aides for your learning pleasure. The Women Loving Women DVD promises to educate on the best techniques for pleasuring a woman, regardless of the partner’s gender.

So, you’ve educated yourself and now you’re ready to try out your new skills. If you are sheepish about your first lesbian encounter, or your first sexual encounter with a new partner, consider some lesbian sex toy games. Games offer an intriguing way to ease into the act all the while having fun and getting the passion heated up. Exxxtasy Erotic Game for Women Only offers great ways to turn foreplay into a whole evening’s fun. If you get stuck during the act and can’t figure out what positions to try, Lesbian Sex Cards offer suggestions on sexual positions and fun acts to perform with your partner. Like sexual encounter, lesbian sex is all about partnering and pleasuring.